How do I learn to stop taking things so personally? If there is a failing in something I had a hand in, my prevailing feelings run along the following lines:
- Defensive – e.g. thoughts on my end that the issue not being as bad as reported (downplaying the issue) etc
- Primarily Anxiety – negative self talk e.g. how could I be so stupid or how could I not foresee $thing?
I am painfully aware of how harmful my instinctual responses are and lately, I’ve been pushing myself to add a third bullet to the list above: hope(ful). Rather than flagellate myself, I should observe these events as learning opportunities for the larger organization. It’s far easier said than done for a conflict avoidant personality like yours truly but I have to try. I’ll see how this plays out. 🤞